UNOFFENDABLE
Being Unoffendable: The Ridiculous Idea
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James 1:19-21 (NIV) My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
Ephesians 4:25-32 (NIV) Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Our foundational beliefs and opinions about anger are often formed in our younger years, especially in light of our families. We learn what anger is and how to process it by observing those closest to us. What were you taught about anger as a child?
The phenomenon of “righteous anger” is not only prevalent in the church but also in our culture. There is a sense that sometimes we are justified in being angry, or even that we are supposed to be angry. How has this idea of righteous anger shaped your life?
Forgiveness is the antidote to anger. It’s what helps us let go of anger. Thinking back to your past, when have you experienced the power of forgiveness in a meaningful way?
Another key to successfully letting go of anger in your life is to recognize (and remember) just how good , gracious, and merciful God has been with you. What are some of the biggest ways you have been influenced by God’s goodness and grace?